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Beyond Conflict: Become A Coparenting Team
THIS MANUAL AND VIDEOS ARE INTENDED FOR SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO TEACH AND RUN A HIGH-CONFLICT PARENT EDUCATION CLASS
This Manual describes a 9-class series of psychoeducation for high conflict coparents. The classes are court ordered. Through Intake we screen out participants with serious current IPV, substance abuse, or loss of contact with children who resist or refuse visitation for more than 6 months. Class is taught by two co-leaders (one male and one female) (one mental health professional and one legal professional, often a retired judge). A pass or fail certificate is issued to each class member, and is provided to the court. The Manual comes with a video recording of all nine classes.
- Coparenting Partner (CPP) communications: weekly phone calls or emails, following a provided script.
- Respect for CPP: saying positive things about CPP to children; encouraging children to have regular contact with CPP.
- Managed emotions (does not zone out or have angry outbursts, etc.).
- Conflict resolution skill development: leaving history in the past and staying in the present, identifying issues in non-blaming manner; practicing “radical acceptance”; practicing problem solving.
- Taking responsibility: participant recognizes that their hurt and anger and CPP conflict is damaging to their children.
- Understanding Children’s perspective: able to refrain from negative communication in front of the children.
- Participation in and completion of all class activities, including all homework.
Put a photo of your CPP (nicely framed and in a prominent place on wall or bureau or nightstand) in your child’s bedroom. Take a cell phone photo that shows the picture and where it is placed in the child’s bedroom, and bring it (your cell phone with the photo) to class.
- You don’t have to like it.
- You don’t have to agree with it.
- But it is your reality.
Three Choices for things you don’t like that are outside your control:
- Fight it (knowing that the fight will never lead to changing it)
- Do nothing (and choose to be miserable)
- Radically Accept It
Having listened to your fellow class members, pick a topic FOR ANOTHER CLASS MEMBER—a real life example of something that you see is hard for him or her to accept, and say how she or he might go about radically accepting it.